…it isn’t perfect

celebrate link up

Today I’m celebrating my imperfections: I want to be a better cook, but I really should remember to put on my glasses, I wanted it to be the perfect Christmas, but I blew it in a big way, I want to be a person who isn’t selfish, but I continue to be, especially with those I love, I want to be published, but my book isn’t wanted,

yet.

I want to roll the clock back, but time marches and reminds me,

today is the day to celebrate,

not just the big and beautiful,

but the story of imperfect,

and the forgiveness,

of a great God

who loves

imperfect

me.

 

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…to make a long story short…

I have been away for a bit too long, it even makes me a bit sad to open this blog again.  I miss my first, and in so many ways miss my teaching life.  For years, I prayed, please God keep my parents healthy until after I retire.

He did and then wham.

Mom declined quickly and died.  My dad has always been so independent, and though I know he would miss her, I thought he was invincible.  At ninety-one he is every bit my intelligent and thoughtful dad, but he too needs me, at least twice and sometimes three times a week.  I need to grocery shop, or to bring him to the VA to get his hearing aid straightened out about every other week.  But mainly he needs me to talk to.  He needs my companionship and love.  I am his driver, he is my Miss, uh Mr. Daisy.  His favorite line is “to make a long story short.”

The irony, his stories are never short.

“Nancy, did I tell you about the blood pressure incident?”

“Well, I was kind of with you, when it happened.”

“No, I didn’t tell you.  Let me tell you now.  Karla, the nurse, explained to me why my pressure was high that day at the VA. I called her when I got home.” The nurse at the VA also told him when we were there.

“Karla explained to me that it was a bad thing not to drink my water, orange juice, and decaf coffee at breakfast.  She explained I would be dehydrated and then my blood would get so thick that it would be hard to go through my veins and then my heart would have to work so hard, and that is why my blood pressure went up.”

“I guess that is the moral of the story, Dad, make sure you drink enough, so that doesn’t happen.”

“Did I tell you about that 91-year old who was still driving when he was my age, Nancy?”

“Yep, you did when you told me it was time to say good bye to driving Dad.”

“I think maybe that guy had high blood pressure and maybe he was dehydrated.  It is so sad, maybe he didn’t know like I didn’t know that blood gets thick and all kinds of bad things can happen.”

“Well, Dad, I think you made a smart decision to give up your driver’s license because now I get to hear so many good stories when we drive around together.”

“Do you remember when you made me stop smoking Nancy when you were in 2nd grade?   I’ll make a long story short, okay?  You came home from school one day and told me that your teacher said I was gonna die because the Surgeon General said smoking was bad for your health? ”

“No, I don’t remember me doing that, in 2nd grade.” I have heard this story one million times. “But I know you are going to tell me.”

“I will.  I’ll make a long story short.”

I smiled.  Precious moments.  Precious days.  I want them to last forever.

 

Great Grandpa?  I’ll make a “long story short.”

 

 

 

 

 

worn and weary

I was worn and weary, so were you.

You looked at me with tears and said, “When are we going home Nancy?”  I thought I was going home today, you promised. ”

“We are home, Mom.  Dad’s here, we are sitting on your couch.  Don’t you recognize it?  Look at all your pictures, they are all here.”

While she was in the hospital and in rehab my sister and I orchestrated the move to independent living.  She didn’t sign any of the papers, adamant that she wanted to stay in the house she so lovingly cared for.  It was necessary, neither Mom or Dad could climb the stairs.  Mom was stubborn.  I am stubborn.  She missed the warm light flooding into her back porch, her favorite spot.  I missed it too.  I couldn’t fool her, she knew me so well.

I desperately needed my mom to be my mom again.

I grabbed my laptop.  “Let’s listen to a hymn, mom. What would you like?”

How Great thou Art.”

She leaned back, eyes closed she began to sing.

Hope and light surrounded us as she gently covered my hand in hers.

PS This week, my mom’s birthday, I celebrate her.  Last year I was with her, this year she celebrates her home in heaven.  I haven’t been able to write about her for some time.  This is my start. xo nanc

dad

 

love to celebrate

celebrate link up

I’m celebrating posting for a second time…after a very long time of not making the time to write on my blog.

I’m celebrating a crisp clean weather change in Illinois and being able to pull out the down comforter again.

I’m celebrating a sister coming to town to help with my mom and dad and being able to laugh again instead of

just crying.

I’m celebrating being a part of church that welcomes everyone in, that decided 40 years ago change was

possible and that rock bands, drama and media were acceptable forms of worship.  I love my church!

I’m celebrating that the Bears gave the Cheeseheads a game.

I’m celebrating that I can still help my former district even though I’m retired.

looking back to move forward…

celebrate link up

After I write the title, I think, after reading my last two posts…it’s been long, way too long since I have written.  I read over my last two posts.  I wrote an excited post about teaching my grad class again and one more after my mom gets sick, very sick.  Really she has been getting sick for about six years.

You know you have them, those parents that are in denial that their babes have a learning difficulty, or a sitting difficulty, or a mean streak.  My mom was diagnosed with Alt…, see, I still can’t even write the word.  I have lived in denial at the clinical term.  She is confused and now she says it quite often

I’m so confused.

She doesn’t usually say my name because she might call me Julie or Carol, my sisters, or Emily, my daughter. She thought yesterday that I lived in that foreign country where they talk funny.  That would be Emily, my daughter who lives in Ecuador.  I have been at my parents new condo nearly every day since the beginning of May.  My mom fell, fractured vertebrae and has had 3 hospital stays and one rehab stint.

During this time we have packed up their whole house, moved everything that we could, sorted and sorted lots paper dating back to 1959…taught my graduate students, worked every Thursday at our Care Center at church, wrote curriculum and units for my former district, went to Kelly’s festive wedding in June, traveled to Jeff’s wonderful mountain wedding last week, watched my grand daughter’s first toddling steps, and watched my mom get healthier…physically.

My mom’s mental capacity has tragically diminished in the last few weeks.  Yesterday, as I helped the caregiver with her bath she said to me,

Dead is easy, dying is hard.

I thought to myself, hmmm, she is showing brilliance right now.  I thought a second and said,

Yes, it is hard…very hard to say goodbye.  But just think though of what you have to look forward to. You will see Jesus, your dad, your mom, Uncle Sig, Lois and so many of your friends.  You will be happy forever.  It makes me happy, just thinking about heaven.  Let’s just sit here, listen to hymns together.

Ahh, she sighed, I know this one…How Great Thou Art, I love this one, It is Well with my Soul!

She smiled and laid her head down on the pillow.

Just as I was finishing writing this last sentence, my husband Dave came up with his phone.  He tells me my mom is in the ER.    She fell and hit her head on the buffet.  They just brought her to the hospital and are doing a CT.  My dad said, that he hoped he would be bringing her home tonight.  He doesn’t want me to rush over, worried about my driving ability in the dark .  He asked me to please pray.

I will.  I love you Daddy.  It’s going to be okay.  God is with us.

Writing this has been a celebration of sorts for me.  God whispered to start celebrating every week with all of you.  I have missed writing and Slicing.  I feel energy returning for at least another day, another step.  That is what writing can do for all of us.

 

trying…

“Just try harder, will those legs to move.”

I begged.  I pleaded with God.

She took a fall Friday, another on Saturday and another Sunday night.  Why didn’t she use her walker? A miracle, a neighbor hears her pleas for help in the cold rain, laying on the sidewalk path to the garage. Two days, two nights in the hospital she appears to rally, so that we will bring her home.  She first fights us bringing the sweet 24 hour care-giver.  I am a wreck and so is my dad.  We wonder inside if a wheel-chair needs to be rented. We wonder inside how we will be able to afford this new lifestyle.  We can’t sleep.

She is the best mom a girl could have ever had, but now I feel like I’m the mom and she’s the child.

This is hard.  I feel so angry.  I want to run. It has only been a week; it feels like a year.

My graduate students start this Wednesday.

I need to be up, but I am not.

I’m an anxiety puddle.

God, please help.

I just scored big…

Hi Slicer Friends,

In a few weeks I will be starting to teach my class at the University.  I was able to get 31 picture books, short novels and professional books for the K-3 teacher that will be in my course this summer.  It is so amazing so wonderful…I am so excited.  Each session, I give my book presents at some point in the class.  Most are newer titles but I have my favorite oldie but goodies also. Many teachers go back to get a second master’s degree in Literacy at Judson.  It is so worth the time, effort and money to do this outstanding…very special,  program.  If you are in the Northern Illinois region..check it out, we are in our 8th year. We also have a new Doctoral Program for Literacy Educators. Dr. Steven Layne is the director for both programs… he has definitely, put Illinois on the literacy map.  In my class we get the book presents, use them in our classrooms the next week and then share on the blog I created just for my students.  They really do a ‘slice’ for every week of our class. Fun, fun, fun!!!! xo

PS This is my first post to them.

PSS Shhh…they are also getting the Caldecott winner….do you know what won? 

Getting the Poetry Friday Anthology for you has been so…..exciting… for me personally.  I have loved poems of all shapes, all colors, all textures for most of my blankety-blank years.  It is the best gift a teacher can give, the love of poetry, the desire to eat poems right up.  I love poems, I’ve tried to write poems, I sang poem songs to the moon every night for much of my childhood.  I even had a poem published in American Girl.  If you remember that magazine, you may be closer to my age than you think.

But all that stopped.  

THERE WAS THIS DISGUSTING TIME OF MY LIFE, WHERE I LISTENED TO WHAT OTHER PEOPLE SAID, INSTEAD OF TO MY OWN VOICE.

poetry is for fools,

you won’t be cool,

especially

if you

like to analyze a line,

especially

if you

don’t love rhyme. (now that is a disgusting little poem)

I came back however, realizing in high school,  that musical lyrics are poetry and that a great love song is usually a great love poem, yep I was pretty much into love at the time.  I began reading again…and rather recently, have tried writing again.  I follow Poetry Friday online.  I love the generosity of poets.  Just check out Amy’s Poem Farm.  Amazing.

Fluency is where we spend our lives girlfiriends…the poems…they help us teach!

What do you think of the book presents this week?  How do you use poetry in your classroom now? Let’s get real and gutsy here.  Let’s start by telling the truth about how we really feel about poetry.  I just counted lots of I’s in this post.  Now I want to hear from you.  xo nancslice button